While giving psychic readings, I often look at the energy of having space. Many times the person I am reading has lost her or his space, given it up to something (or someone) else. Something else has become more important in that person’s space than their own energy, needs, health, desires, dreams. This is a spiritual choice; when it’s an unconscious one and I get to say hello to it, I am most happy to oblige.
Currently many of us are working on where we have given up space to money and its value. Where, for example, we have given greater value to something outside of ourselves, often overlooking the bountiful riches to be found within. Hint: when you truly understand that your value comes from within you, outside forces lose their power over you. You can create much more from yourself, with a lot less effort. It is not about something out there having power over you. It is about you having power over yourself.
Many people have not experienced having their space. They might not know what it means, or feels like, or even that they have the right to it. They might not know that there is no need to heal or placate others in the quest for finding their own space, yet that is often the first demand that comes in when someone starts on this path. Imagine: you begin to heal yourself. You don’t even know where you are going or how to get there, yet something inside drives you. You just can’t keep doing things the same way anymore. As soon as you step onto the path of self knowledge, others notice. Some of them may applaud, and others will wail and gnash their teeth. Yes, it can get dramatic. There’s the old story about crabs in a bucket: one tries to escape and the others drag him back into the bucket. Humans do it too. Except that you have the power to get yourself out of the bucket.
I know when I am in need of solitude because I feel so full of other energies that I can hardly think or breathe. My body feels sluggish and anxious at the same time. Nothing seems to gel, and I’m irritable. I just want to be alone. I know it’s time to kick everyone out so I can find me again. No offense meant, it’s what I need. My experience is that some will get it and others won’t. That is not my problem. I know if I don’t get me back that nothing works. What I create comes from me, and I am my first responsibility.
I took some time the past week to create some more space for myself. As often happens when I do this, I found myself handling the demand to explain myself. As in, where did I go? In the past, I have given into these demands, but that has changed with time and awareness. I always know when I’m getting my space back again because I feel clear and unworried about any outcomes. I see my own path more clearly, I know it’s not about anyone else. How I get my space changes every time too – sometimes I need to unplug and ignore all the demands on me. Other times I need to watch silly movies and laugh a lot, paint my nails, make a new dress, read glossy fluffy magazines, take a nap, paint. Usually what’s involved is reminding myself that I have a body and it needs fun, rest, play, color, happy thoughts.
It’s different for everyone. Each person has different ways to do this, and nobody is wrong. I have seen people get their space in the oddest of ways, but who am I to judge? It’s my job to figure out how to have mine, and do it.
©Kris Cahill – Psychic Everyday
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