Happiness is not difficult

__IGP2784WI was almost 30 years old when I suddenly woke up to the fact that one could choose happiness…

and that not everyone around me would want to do the same thing. In fact, some people are downright judgmental about happiness. Perhaps they’ve been disappointed so many times before, they are afraid to choose. One could say that some people are not happy unless they’re miserable. Whatever makes you happy, I guess.

I’ve seen people live with terrible lies rather than choose their own happiness, believing (falsely) that they were somehow responsible for another’s happiness. And that if they chose their own path, it would make the other person unhappy.

Daughters who wouldn’t live for themselves, sons who followed a career path they didn’t really want in their heart of hearts. I’m not surprised at the large amount of heart disease in this culture – I’m certain that one of the causes of heart disease is not listening to one’s own heart. The deepest longings to be or do something never really go away. One’s dreams may lie unfertilized, but the original seed is still there. Maybe next time!

“Follow your heart” is about happiness and fulfillment.

Humans are still evolving into the time when listening to one’s own heart is seen as important, when the culture at large validates this concept. How funny that a global recession is contributing to our ability to do this. With high unemployment a reality, people are going back to school in large numbers, re-imagining how they work and spend and live. I’ve heard more people talk about changing their career focus in the past year than I’d heard in a long time. I’ve heard from old friends that they are finally, after doing so many other things, able to pursue their dreams. Beautiful music to the ears!

The generation previous to the 60’s generation were not concerned so much with happiness and personal fulfillment. Their concerns had to do with obligation, position, fitting in, doing well, following society’s expectations and rules. They weren’t wrong, they did some amazing things. That generation was all about upholding tradition, keeping it all together, keeping up appearances. What will the neighbors say…?

They had their time, and it was good. Now is this time, and it is good too.

When people aren’t following their own heart, for whatever reason, they can get into all kinds of trouble. Take our last president for example. He really wanted, in his heart of hearts, to be the baseball commissioner. He would have loved to do this! Can you imagine the last decade or so if he had gotten his heart’s desire? There are other examples, to be sure. Perhaps you know a few. Here’s how to tell if someone you know is bored and/or not following their own heart: are they starting wars over nothing, taking away others’ civil rights, and making all kinds of silly rules?

It looks to me like it’s a complete win-win for everyone when more people follow their hearts and their passion, and pursue the thing they truly want to do. “What you want, wants you” has the ring of truth.

I’ll leave you with the wise words of a great man who followed his passion, and by doing so gave so much to so many, myself included.

Reasons to be cheerful part 3
1 2 3
Summer, Buddy Holly, the working folly
Good golly Miss Molly and boats
Hammersmith Palais, the Bolshoi Ballet
Jump back in the alley and nanny goats

18-wheeler Scammels, Domenecker camels
All other mammals plus equal votes
Seeing Piccadilly, Fanny Smith and Willy
Being rather silly, and porridge oats

A bit of grin and bear it, a bit of come and share it
You’re welcome, we can spare it – yellow socks
Too short to be haughty, too nutty to be naughty
Going on 40 – no electric shocks

The juice of the carrot, the smile of the parrot
A little drop of claret – anything that rocks
Elvis and Scotty, days when I ain’t spotty,
Sitting on the potty – curing smallpox
~Ian Dury and the Blockheads, “Reasons To Be Cheerful

©Kris Cahill

http://psychiceveryday.com  /  http://KrisCahill.com
Photo: ©Morgue File

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