Who made the rules?

walrusHerdWhose rules do you follow?

How very fortunate we all are to have so many of us here. What fun it is to hang out with friends and family, bounce ideas off of each other, share our lives and our thoughts. Be part of a big fun group of people, a community. There are so many amazing people to meet and get to know.

We help each other grow and become more of who we can be by having so many different ways of looking at life, so many different ways of living. It is wonderful to become inspired by watching how someone else created something incredible. We give so much to each other this way. You might say we are wealthy in people.

I appreciate the fusion that has been happening more and more in recent decades: the mixing of ideas, races, religions, musical styles, art, fashion, life styles, healing modalities. The creating of brand new ways of being and looking, new ways of seeing. There’s been a change in attitude that has been occurring on a big scale on this planet. There are more people able and willing to look at living together here from a brand new perspective, to see each other more clearly. We kind of have to, at this point. We certainly cannot afford to keep doing things the old way.

There are always rules to break along the way. What is a rule but an agreement of some kind? In order to create a new world, humans have had to break many rules, over and over again. Just think of the rules you’ve broken, that you’ve had to bend, twist, and break – to become who you are now. When someone is allowing him or herself to be held back by decrees written by others, it can be a stifling experience.

Note: I am not talking about breaking the law here, though throughout history it has been very necessary to break and change unreasonable and heinous laws. I am speaking more to the social mores, the unwritten rules, the lines drawn in the sand that someone decided should not be crossed.

If you will examine whose rules you are governed by on a daily basis, then you can more clearly write, as Bill Maher says, “New Rules”. You can come up with something that is better for you than following a rule written by somebody from several generations ago that makes absolutely no sense to your 21st century life. You can more honestly examine the rules in your relationships with others. You can look at the rules you’ve decided for yourself over the years – do they still work today?

We were all encouraged to obey, follow the rules, and be “good”. It was deeply programmed in many of us, and often it helped us become thoughtful, polite, and kind people. I see a lot of those rules as guide posts on how to treat each other, and how to behave in public. They can also be deeply stunting to one finding one’s own truth. If you are getting dangerously close to a rule that keeps you limited in range, maybe it’s time to end that agreement.

As a member of the punk rock generation, I understand this one clearly. Rock, punk, metal, rap, hip hop – healing creations, speaking to new generations who needed to destroy the old way of doing things because it was not their own, and did so simply by creating something new.  Artists break rules. That is also the healing power of art, and why the arts have so often been attacked in a country where people must be controlled by rules. But that is a different post for another day.

©Kris Cahill  2007-2012  All Rights Reserved.

Image: Geek Philosopher
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