They believe that if they venture outside of the well known and secure life they have constructed around themselves, bad things will happen to them. Unknown bad things, which is different from all the “known” bad things they see on TV and in the news, everyday.
The fear of what might happen if they are seen keeps many people hidden, afraid to step out and reach for what they really want. They don’t know how to be seen and be safe. They choose to stay small, for fear of being hurt.
Sometimes it isn’t their fear that holds them back, but the fears of others in their group. The group mentality works like this: everyone agrees on certain conditions and rules for the group, usually unconsciously. If one member of the group tries to step up and create something for her or himself outside of the agreed upon rules, the group judges, gets angry, and sometimes tries to pull that person back.
Some of the judgment sounds like this, “Why would you succeed at that when so many others have failed? You should get realistic and get a steady job or a real career. Only one in a million can succeed like that”… and so on. There is often an emphasis on ‘getting real’.
Which begs the question, whose reality are you talking about anyway?
Maybe your reality looks a bit more like this. You may not want to be a movie star or the next big musical star. You may just want to devote your time to following what has meaning for you, rather than getting a job just so that you can afford to have the life “everyone” is supposed to have and want.
You may not even know just what it is you want to do. You might have spent your whole life doing one thing, it was good, but its time is over. You finished with that part of your life – good job!
Now you are free to create a new picture for the next part of the journey.
The best tools you can have to take a step in a new direction are tools you can use to heal yourself and keep yourself safe. In order to take a new step in the direction you want to go in, it helps to know yourself better. Then you can be certain that, no matter what information is coming in from out there telling you what is safe or smart to do, you are secure enough to choose for yourself.
Meditation is one of the best tools to help you do this. Learning how to ground your own body and to be able to release energies that get in your way, make it safe for you to make choices you might not otherwise be able to make. Perhaps learning how to meditate is the next step toward your next step.
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