If somebody tells you otherwise, they are not speaking the truth. What they are saying is that they know who they want you to be, who you are supposed to be, or even who you want them to think is the real you.
Meanwhile, the actual truth of who you are might be hidden and protected deep under a surface of demands, responsibilities, beliefs, agreements, and other people’s energy. It might be hidden so well that even you are having a hard time seeing it. After all, it is so inconvenient to have to disappoint all of those people when you change how you see yourself. You become the one who starts making demands, and if your previous self image didn’t allow for you to demand or be given to, this can really blow a few people’s minds.
Remember that last movie you saw where the hero or heroine decided to finally begin to stand up for himself or herself? Did you find it an inspiration, and maybe even a little bit frightening? It might feel scary to decide to make a big shift, especially if you are letting go of so much in the process.
Amazing things begin to surface when you decide to know the most important person in your own life – you. If you decide to become the most important energy in your own space, your life will become more of how you want it to be, effortlessly.
In order to do this, it helps to become aware of the other energies you’ve allowed to take you over. Do you have squatters in there with you? It’s time to kick them out, especially if you want to get clearer within yourself about who you are, anyway.
Helpful tools to help you know yourself:
1. Truth – your own. As in honestly answering that all important question: what do you really want? Are you living your own truth, or pretending you like things the way they already are because it’s too hard or inconvenient to change them? Remember that what is true for you is not necessarily true for others. And vice versa. It’s your job to decide whether you will follow your truth, or not. No competition with others is required, you win by finding yours and living it.
2. Forgiveness. Begin by forgiving yourself, then move on to others, then back to you. Repeat. What to forgive? Here’s a short list: you are not perfect; they are not perfect; you make mistakes sometimes; so do the others. Do this daily.
3. Being able to let go. As in, stop being such a control freak. What you are trying to control might be controlling you. Do your body a favor and allow it to release the tension it carries from the strain of trying to control everything. Holding on to all of that stuff will definitely hurt your body. If your body is happy, it is easier for you to be in it and have your life how you want it to be. (See #4, Grounding Yourself.)
4. Grounding yourself. Grounding is a miracle, and one of the simplest techniques you can practice. It is also sometimes the most difficult, due to that very simplicity. Grounding is as old as the earth, and as deep. One way to ground yourself: sit comfortably, have your feet flat on the floor, close your eyes, and create a connection from your lower body deep into the earth. Release any energies you are holding onto that don’t feel right for you. Stay conscious while doing this. It’s fun and feels good too!
5. Listen to that still small voice within. Are you muffling that inside voice under a layer of busyness, overworking, worry, control, guilt, or being a victim? It’s time to stop blaming outside energies or circumstances and begin taking responsibility for yourself. Take some quiet time every day to listen to yourself, without judgment. This is how you can also begin to access your other psychic abilities, like your intuition, inner voice, and so on.
Not everyone wants to get to know themselves. Many people are perfectly happy following the blueprint that’s been laid out for them, and that’s fine. You don’t need to worry about them or try to change a thing for anyone else. How about this instead: you do this for yourself, and become a great example of what is possible?
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