Who or what are you trying to control?

Trying is the key word here, because that’s all you can really do with most beings and situations, try to have control. If you are trying to have control of yourself, however, that’s another matter.

You really have no control over anything outside of yourself. It’s not your job to control others, though you may have agreed to do so. When you are trying to control others, you are also in their space, ie: invading them.

When you try to control the actions of another, or the outcome of a situation, you are in danger of losing your own energy, and of forgetting that you actually have much more of an effect on the situation by staying in your own space.

Many of us have tried to be in control in order to feel safe. However well intentioned we may have been, this doesn’t work so well as a tactic. We could fool ourselves into believing that we were safer by controlling what is happening. This is a cycle that never ends:

  • You may feel responsible for everyone and everything that crosses your path in certain situations, so you try to control.
  • You might have been punished when something didn’t go well, blamed for an outcome you had no control over, so now you try to control.
  • You may have been programmed from the time you were quite young, if only because all of the people around you were so out of control that someone had to be the grown-up. And you weren’t yet 3 years old at the time.
  • You may have a hard time letting go, and see it as some kind of failure, so you control. You might have no separation between the thing you are trying to hold onto and yourself, so it’s painful to let go.

A few energies that may help you to let go of control include: non-judgment, forgiveness, non-resistance, grounding yourself, getting to know yourself, honesty, trust, faith, and love.

By learning to let go, you can have your own energy back again, your precious and valuable healing energy. Once you have that back, you can use it to create more of what it is you do want to see happening around you and in your own life. It all begins within you.

©Kris Cahill

http://PsychicEveryday.com / http://KrisCahill.com
‘Victim of a Human Malice’ ©Tanakawho on Flickr

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2 thoughts on “Who or what are you trying to control?

  1. Cool blog post, Kris. Control is one of the hardest things that I work with in the spiritual path, although I feel elements of it breaking down in the core of my being. It comes up a lot for me as a protective issue.

    PS: I posted this link on my FB page:

    • Jim, thanks so much for posting this link. I appreciate it. Control is the major thing we are having to rethink and let go of. It is a difficult issue for many of us. Fortunately we can have amusement!

      I agree, it is protective. I see that in myself and also in many others. Someone who is controlling is often trying to become safe.

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