One of the best ways to get your relationships with others into the present time, is to bring your relationship with yourself there first.
You may have been working with some old ideas of who you are and what you are capable of becoming, having, and creating. Some of those ideas might have been handed to you by others, or you willingly adopted them as your own. Perhaps you felt more comfortable keeping yourself small. Maybe you didn’t want to hurt anyone else by stepping away to have more. So you chose to be less than you could actually be.
When you decide to hold back, whether from fear, invalidation, or shyness, you aren’t just withholding from yourself. You’re actually holding back from each of us. You become the gift by deciding to step up and become. When you bring your relationship with yourself into the present time, all other relationships will follow, effortlessly. You’ll no longer want to deal with those who cannot have you being here and now, in your own life.
If you decide to get into the present time with yourself first, you’ll make more conscious choices about what serves you, what you need to do for yourself, and what you no longer want to have, without making those choices based on what others want for you. You might have held yourself back from following your own heart’s desire because of an old out of date belief about what is possible. Perhaps this belief was originally based on someone else’s fears, and not on your own truth.
One of the best ways to get your relationship with yourself into the now is to have communication within yourself. Meditation is an effective and wonderful way to go about improving your communication with yourself. When you have validating communication within, it’s hard for any problems or doubts to creep in. When you open up and listen to your own inner voice, you can decide more clearly what is true for you now.
Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you have, and all other relationships you create are based on this one. It’s worth taking the time to bring it into the present time.
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