Imagine your way into 2012

What is your Big Dream for 2012?

How does your dream look to you? What do you see is possible for you to have, create, and become this year? Where do you want to grow? What are you willing to let go of?

As you move into the new year, it’s helpful to notice if you are still carrying energy from the old one. Any old out of date energies can get in your way as you step up to create your new creations.

2011 was an amazing year for each of us. As challenging as it may have been, it was just as necessary. 2011 is a year to be grateful for, though it might not have felt comfortable to you in the least. It may have been the year you moved past blocks to your own truth, and that is priceless.

2011 was all about spiritual growth, and a big part of growing spiritually is letting go of what no longer serves you in that growth. It’s common to have an unconscious perfect picture about how growth “should” be. Who knew that spiritual growth could be so difficult and uncontrollably messy?!

A new year is an awakening, a time for new energy and dreams. It’s fun to create the new pictures of what you want. It’s lovely to dream big dreams, to visualize and imagine huge successes, fun times, happy relationships, financial health. This is also the way you make these things real in your life – your dreams come true.

Making anything real begins with the spirit of you. When you can see what it is you want, and imagine yourself having those things in your life, you can make them real. Everything you create begins with energy, spirit. When you become conscious about working with energy and begin to use it to heal yourself and make your life work for you instead of feeling like you’re constantly in effort, miracles happen.

As you begin this journey into a new year, you may want to consider bringing some new tools with you:

  • Permission to dream big. Don’t hold back or let your dreams be made smaller by the prevailing wisdom of what is “possible”. Every time someone tried to do the impossible and make it possible, they had ‘helpful’ naysayers who constantly tried to convince them it was a waste of time. Ignore everyone else’s ‘reality’ and concentrate on yours.
  • A way to make it real. Dreaming is good but if your dreams never come down to earth, if you can’t make them real, then it’s no fun to dream. Grounding yourself is a great way to begin making your own vision a reality.
  • How much are you willing to let go of? It’s difficult to create your new reality while also trying to drag the past with you. When you can let go, forgive, and be in present time with yourself, you have more of your energy available to create with. In order to create anything, you need enough energy and space to do so.

You are the only one who can imagine what you’ll imagine. What you dream of, others may share, but you’ll always have your own spin on it, if you’re working from your own truth. What this means is that nobody else can create what you came here to create. Only you can decide to get started.

©Kris Cahill

I create guided meditations that help you to create with energy. Here is a new one I recorded live that is very much along the lines of this post: ‘Create 2012’. You can purchase it as an mp3 at this link: Create 2012 Meditation.  ~

‘The Journey Home’ ©Paul (Dex) on Flickr

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Do you have time and space to listen to yourself?

Are you able to take the time to just sit, listen, and be?

Or has it been all about doing, being busy, and getting a lot done? Many people find their worth in production, constant improvement and busy-ness. Busy as a bee, I’m so busy, busy busy busy! There’s so much to DO. Sometimes there can be such a demand on one to prove one’s worth, as if by constantly being in movement, you won’t lose ground. A rolling stone gathers no moss, and so on.

People do need a place to put their energy, to pitch in and feel they have value. It’s important for each of us to have something we feel we can contribute. However, that isn’t the whole story of who you are and why you’re here, not by a long shot.

Remember, just because you are constantly in movement, that doesn’t mean that your energy is also.

You could be going non-stop, and still have energy that is stuck. Ever feel like no matter what you DID, things didn’t move into place for you? You feel like you’re in lots of effort and nothing’s working, it’s all stuck.

Stopping to sit and listen at those times is the very best thing you could do. That is, if you can listen to yourself with compassion and kindness, not self recrimination and criticism. Sometimes we make ourselves very busy so we don’t have to listen to our own critical internal voice. That critical voice may not even be your energy – you might have picked up the habit from others close to you who also are harsh and judgmental on themselves. If all you hear when you stop to listen is everyone else’s warnings, advice, fears, successes, sorrow, instructions… you may never learn the true beauty of your own internal voice.

If you can allow yourself to sit and be, and to let go of that internal critic as you do, you’ll be able to hear the really delightful stuff, the things you’ve been trying to hear. Your spirit has a lot to communicate, as does your body. If you allow your worrying, nagging, critical mind to take over, you’ll have difficulty hearing the rest.

How about taking the time to listen to your own heart? Your truth lies within you, and is unique to you. You can certainly be inspired by what others have to say, or how they are choosing to take action (or not) in their own lives. But it’s when you learn to listen to yourself and to move the blocks out of your way that have made it difficult to hear yourself clearly, that you can understand something about who you are.

Did you know that by simply being who you are, you are also doing? What you are doing is bringing the gift you came here to bring – yourself. Nobody else can do that but you.

©Kris Cahill
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The art of flying away from perfection

Trying to achieve or maintain a state of perfection can feel like being locked in a cage – one of your own making.

When you are never enough, or can never give enough, no matter how much you give of yourself, you may be aiming for a widely sought after, popular state of being, known as Perfection.

A bird in a cage may look perfectly content and beautiful, but while in the cage can never access its greatest ability: flight.

Are you the bird who has locked yourself away, thereby preventing yourself from being able to access your own ability to fly? When you do this, you deny the rest of us the privilege of seeing you do so, which in turn may inspire still others to try it themselves. Your flight may help me realize I can fly as well. In order to fly well, you have to try, and run the risk of not doing it perfectly, of publicly failing, of hearing others who’ve not yet flown their own craft tell you in well-meaning-but-relieved-that-you-failed voices, “I told you so. Stay close to the ground where you’ll be safe!”.

The thing they (and you) may have forgotten about the alleged wisdom of staying close to the safe ground is that a) it’s not really safe – there are predators there too, and b) a bird is safer in flight, more powerful, faster, and able to find dinner more easily. Also c) it’s fun to fly, really beautiful to see birds in flight.

If you fail, they have a better excuse to not even try. If you fail publicly, they will never let you forget it if you let them get away with it. If you succeed, the lie that it can’t be done is blown up, and everyone who is too afraid to even try will be feeling the pain of your success, and reaching for another round of excuses about why they cannot even begin to try.

Another problem about all of this flying about is that if you (and the bird) take off into the air, it’s more difficult to pin either of you down, control you, or keep you in plain, controllable, view. Obviously, this isn’t a problem for you, (or the bird), just for the control freaks in your life, and anyone else who can’t see themselves flying yet so don’t you dare even try.

Birds were designed to fly. You were designed to become who you are. But you get to decide what that is and do the work involved that it takes to get there.

If you never fly, never become who you truly are, you’ll never know what you might have seen while in flight. If you can get your nerve up to take off, even in the face of resistance, invalidation, fear, and a lack of control over the outcome, if you can trust that you’ll do well in your quest to find what you are seeking – it won’t matter if you fly better than anyone else, or if you even do it with finesse. Just by trying, you succeed. The trick is to get up and try again tomorrow, to step forward, to take off, to keep yourself moving.

©Kris Cahill  2007-2011  All Rights Reserved  ~

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Validation is the next step

I am pleased to present my new energy videos.

Currently, there are 7 short videos about energy and different kinds of energy on my YouTube channel, Psychic Everyday. Please check them out, they are fun, informative, and run about 2-3 minutes each. Enjoy!

©Kris Cahill

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When you show up and do the work…

When you show up to do the work of becoming you, you begin to put your energy back into yourself, and into your life. This is akin to investing in your own future, not to mention your present.

When you do this, you are able to perform miracles, like healing yourself from events in your past that have lingered, places where you left parts of yourself behind. By releasing your energy from those places, you can have it back now, where it can really do some good for you. Only in the present moment do you create. The more of your energy you are able to have with you now, the more resources you have to create with. You have a valuable resource – your own true energy, which cannot be replaced by any other substance.

When you decide to invest time and energy in embellishing yourself, your return is far more than you might ever expect, predict, or imagine. If you haven’t taken the time to know your own spirit, you don’t even know yet what you don’t know and what you are missing about who you are, and how great and joyful your life can be.

When you make the commitment to forgive, trust, and love – you, then you step away from anything or anyone who ever tried to make you feel that you weren’t worth it. When you decide to dive in and become completely honest with yourself, rather than play the child, victim, or powerless one to forces outside of you, you create space for yourself that cannot be taken away. The only way you can lose that space is to give it up to other energies.

When you dive in and begin to get it, to really see – you! – you’ll be awestruck at your power. If you’ve believed that your power and value came from outside of yourself, you are in for a treat when you learn where they really come from. Look no further than your own true home – yourself.

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Making it real is an inside job

It’s important to understand that if you want to be seen in the spotlight, it isn’t the spotlight itself that makes you look good.

It’s not because of the spotlight that you shine. Your light comes from within you. The more comfortable you are with who you are, the easier it will be for you to stand out, and to step into the light.

The better you know and love yourself, the more you allow yourself the permission and space to simply be who you are, the simpler it will be for you to fearlessly step forward and be seen.

It’s not what’s coming in from the outside world that makes it real for you, but how you choose to be, from the inside out. The power is within you already: the power to decide to become conscious, to heal yourself, to give yourself permission to be one of a kind.

No matter what others may pressure you to be, if you are grounded within your own truth, it will be effortless for you to know what you need to do next. If your loyalty is to a group, to your family or friends, or to someone else’s way of seeing, you may want to spend some quality time and sort through yourself to see if you’ve been blindly loyal at the expense of your own truth. If you’re afraid of being ostracized by the group for being yourself, you will hold yourself back from living your own life. Your life won’t belong to you, and you won’t be free.

If you can’t be what others want you to be, be yourself instead. Find out what that is, and make it real by becoming it, with complete honesty.

The following is from an article called ‘Nurse Reveals the Top 5 Regrets People Make On Their Deathbed’: “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.” ~ This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. ~by Bronnie Ware

It is time to step up your game, to decide to free yourself of those old restrictions. Let go of the rules that held you back, such as the need to make sense to everyone, be perfect, or live sensibly. As you’ve no doubt noticed, a lot of things do not make sense right now. We are moving to a new time in our evolution, and yes, we are evolving. It’s happening anyway, so you might as well come along.

If you’re not sure where to start, you may want to begin by asking yourself, what makes it real for you? What do you really want? Be honest with yourself, and you’ll never need to worry about what others think. By living your truth from within, you will show them who you’ve decided to be.

©Kris Cahill
‘Morning Ant’ ©Karas Cahill on Flickr

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Do you have to choose between freedom and approval?

Are you torn between choosing to have what you want, and needing to have others approve of you?

When you don’t have the freedom to choose to create or have what you truly want, you might be giving up your space to fears that others won’t like you if you do the things you really want to do.

If you’re afraid you’ll anger someone or hurt their feelings if you change, you are allowing your need for their approval to control you. You cannot blame somebody else for this. It’s within your power to change it, not theirs.

If you’ve allowed others to have power over you, that again isn’t their problem to solve. It’s yours. If you need others to approve of you living your life the way you see fit, and if you won’t make a move without their permission, you have nobody else to blame when you don’t get what you want.

You don’t have to make your life a democracy in which everyone else gets a vote on what can happen in your life. You may have been trying to be very nice, and to not create conflicts with others who think they know exactly who you are and what you should do. So, to keep the peace, you hold back, waiting for others to sign on to the idea of you having your own life. Perhaps you spend a lot of your energy helping them out, and they just don’t know what they would do without you! You end up feeling guilty at the thought of not being there for everyone else, and your life becomes all about keeping it together for them.

Meanwhile, what you see is possible for you, and the things you want in your life, don’t go away. You have a conflict in your space between what you think you should do, and what you really want to do.

A good dose of truth within yourself will go far in helping you to change the patterns of not making your life your own. By becoming honest with yourself, you can see yourself and your dreams more clearly. If you have no support for your dreams in your personal world, and are expected to give your energy away so that others can achieve theirs, maybe you want to change that.

If you decide that approving of yourself and being happy with who you are mean more to you than winning any popularity contests, you’re well on the way to creating your life from a place of inner freedom. This is your true job in this lifetime.

©Kris Cahill

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Which pictures do you invest your energy in?

How do you see yourself?

Did you know that you put your energy into the pictures you create of yourself and what it’s possible for you to have?

Where you put your energy is where you are, as a being. Where you put your energy is where you create.

So which of your creations would you rather see become real: the happy positive pictures, or the unhappy negative ones?

Don’t go pulling the ‘reality’ card out of your hat. Reality is also what you create. Again, where you put your energy is where you are, as a being. This is where you create. If your energy is in a picture of something you really do want, you’re more likely to get it than if your energy is caught in a victim picture, or helpless picture, or something else that doesn’t quite do you justice.

We all choose pictures to live and work by. Beginning from the time you were very small, you adopted pictures as your own, or created new ones. You might have admired the way the cheerleaders looked on the sidelines at a game, and perhaps you created a picture of yourself as one of them. You could see yourself doing what they were doing. Perhaps you were inspired by the way a rock guitarist played his or her guitar, and you created a picture of yourself someday doing the same.

It takes work to make your pictures real. If you see yourself as a musician, it also takes you showing up every day as the musician, practicing, studying, and so on. By investing your energy into this picture, you make it possible to create it. The pictures that you create for yourself determine what you can achieve in your life.

It also takes energy to create a picture that it’s not possible to have what you want.

For example, if you were given a picture as a child that you were clumsy, and you adopted this picture as being the truth, then you invested your energy into it, giving it more power as you grew up. If you saw yourself as clumsy, you might have limited what you could do or have, choosing to instead believe that you were too clumsy to dance, or be a cheerleader, or play baseball. By seeing yourself as clumsy, you may have become so as a result.

Then again, what if you decided to overcome the clumsy picture, pull your energy out of it, and instead invest your energy in a different picture? Perhaps one in which you could be seen in a more attractive light, a kinder light? If you saw yourself as becoming graceful, and being capable of becoming more sure footed, you might have worked to become this. by doing so, you gave yourself permission to become graceful. It began with your picture.

Do your pictures of your life include you being in a happy relationship, doing work that you love and which fulfills you? Even if your present reality doesn’t match to the picture of what you’d like to have, it helps to begin with a picture of what it is you want. This is where you want to be very honest with yourself about what you do want, and don’t want. It also helps to get the local Eyeores out of your way.

To create what it is you want takes a vision, faith, trust, and work. Honesty is also a requirement. You might have to move the old past time pictures you have of yourself out of your way first. Get into present time with who you are, what you want and need. Then go for it. Create those new pictures. Let nobody else throw a ‘can’t’ or ‘impossible’ at your pictures. These are yours, and nothing, really, is impossible if you are working from your own truth.

©Kris Cahill

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The healing power of anger

Who had permission to get angry in the household you grew up in?

Was it you, your mother or father,  or someone else? Was anger seen as natural and a way of releasing? Or was it judged as being a negative and unsafe emotion?

It may be that only the women in your family were allowed to get angry, or only the men. There simply wasn’t room for anyone else ‘to express their feelings of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility’ – (Webster’s definition of anger). It may have been unsafe for someone else, if you got angry. Maybe there was a lot of unconscious anger being thrown around already, and everyone else was expected to stuff theirs. Children who get angry are often viewed as being bad or disobedient.

If you grew up with this kind of energy, your natural ability to use anger constructively without judging yourself, may have become tainted. You may have learned to fear your own natural anger. Chances are that if you had no permission to get angry when you were young, you didn’t have any space either. If someone else couldn’t have you getting angry, your natural range of emotions was controlled. A judgment was placed in your space about anger. You learned to avoid ‘making’ someone else angry. People lie all of the time to each other to avoid an angry response. The fear of anger makes us into liars.

When anger is used unconsciously, and thrown at anyone who happens to be in the way, it isn’t constructive or healing. It can actually be punishing for those on the receiving end, who may have done nothing to cause the anger. If someone is always angry, running on anger, that may just be their style. But if they misdirect it into your space, or at others, this is when it becomes a negative energy.

When your feelings haven’t been acknowledged by others as being important, you may need to get angry to move that invalidation out of your way. If you’re being honest with yourself about what you’re expressing, and it still isn’t heard, anger can help you to get stuck energy moving again. If you repress your true natural anger for long enough, it will come out in other ways, whether in your body’s health, your emotional health, or your energy levels. Repressed anger can lead to depression.

Being honest with yourself helps you to avoid having to stuff your own anger. If you’ve been trying to fit into the small amount of space others have decided you’re allowed to have, anger is a natural response. Like a volcano, once you release that energy, you can cool down and create something new, something more true for you.

©Kris Cahill
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The puzzle and the picture

What do you do when your creation doesn’t match the picture on the box that it was ‘supposed’ to look like?

What if that creation is you?

If you’re trying to put a puzzle together, the goal is to make it look like the picture on the box it came in.

If you’re trying to put your life together, there is no picture, and no box. Actually, there are loads of pictures. The trick is to find yours. You’ll know when you’re on the right track because things work better for you, life flows, and you somehow feel right.

Rather than be invalidated because you didn’t match or fit in, decide to embrace your Differentness.  It’s an opportunity to discover who you are and who you meant to become this lifetime. This is how you find your own pictures: the means to create them are already within you.

Creativity is about Discovery. It’s not about being lauded, accepted, and fitting in. Creativity is of the spirit – you already have the ability to create because you are here. In fact, even without much awareness or action on your part, you are creating all day long. Every thought, picture, message you give to yourself or others, is creating something.

The key would be to become conscious about what that thing is that you are creating. Is it what you meant to create? Is it even your truth? Does it work for you?

Invalidation can set in at a very young age when you don’t fit the picture that others have about who you are, or should be. If you arrive here, all shiny and sparkly, but just don’t match somehow, you will be told by others that there is something wrong with you. It can take years before you realize that you were born perfectly fine, just as you are. (This was amusingly illustrated in the hit television series “The Munsters”. Marilyn is the beautiful cousin who is seen as the ‘unattractive’ one in the family, because she doesn’t look like a monster.)

Life is a ‘come as you are’ party. You arrived with a mission, goals, and a plan. If it feels like you’re not living your own true life, it’s because you haven’t found your way there yet. It’s available to you now, and begins with you listening to your own truth, and following your own heart.

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